People reveal who they are. It just happens.
One of the battle cries of the social media movement has been, “transparency!” We’ve been encouraged to “be transparent” in our online communication in order to gain the trust of our networks. It’s generally good advice, as far as it goes.
Of course it doesn’t go far enough, and it’s not a new concept. Transparency has been applied to media for years. We like transparency in the media. We like to know where and how information used in reporting was gathered. In the social space, it also carries a secondary meaning. Transparency in the social space means that if I’m engaging in conversations, anywhere at anytime, I’m doing so without any hidden agendas.
I’m not sure that’s a realistic expectation.
We all have our hidden agendas. But what I’ve come to learn is that time provides its own form of transparency. People can only put on a show for so long. Eventually, over the course of time, patterns emerge in our communication that reveal our sometimes hidden agendas. Those patterns reveal the truth about who we are. They reveal the truth about our secret intentions.
Eventually, we all reveal ourselves.
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