I’m proud of the relationship I have with my 24-year-old son, Joshua. Our journey to this place we now find ourselves in is a story I reserve for private conversations, but trust me when I tell you it’s a good one. I’ve learned so much from his beautiful soul. And he keeps teaching.
Yesterday Joshua texted me while I was in the middle of something at work. He was excited about a few new graphic designs he was working on and I communicated back that I really liked them. My responses were positive but brief. And as I’ve come to expect from him, he surprised me. His comments are in grey below, mine are in blue.
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Trying to be funny, I responded to his observation with a simple, “Yup.” And that’s when class began.
“You should try, now that you’re more independent work-wise, to create a bit of a looser schedule even if it’s just slightly so it’s not constant movement… I know I don’t have knowledge in the field to speak to it so I’m just speaking for life in general 🙂 You seem more tense.” And then he said…
“There’s always gonna be time.”
He was right, of course. I knew instantly what he meant. There is always going to be time for work. It forces its way into a prime position in my life. I often allow myself to be defined by it. And as I read his words again, “there’s always gonna be time,” I picked up the phone and called him.
We had a fabulous 15-20 minute conversation about the constant pressures of parenting, of where I was at in my career, and about what was important in life, for him and me. And before I knew it, I was more in love with him than I was before the phone call. And I felt his love for me, and it energized and refreshed me. It was the best part of my day and I almost missed it.
Who or what do you need to make time for today? Yourself? Someone else? Is there a call you’ve been putting off? Make the time. Just do it.
I am thankful for yesterday’s moment of clarity. Thank you, Josh.
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